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Hi Falbulous,

Wow...sorry to hear this. Fortunately, I have a very supportive spouse. However, it was not always that way. Had an ex, some 10 years ago, that was iintimadated by weight loss and workout routine, which was going to the YMCA Monday - Friday evening with my sister-in-law. He was jealous and down right nasty at times. Our relationship ended, but not before I tried explaining to him that I needed to feel better about myself.
Is it to forward of me to ask if your hubby could stand to lose a bit of poundage as well????

It sounds like you relationship is mostly a good one, mine was not, but the best advice I can give you is to sit down with your hubby and explain why you are so intent on losing weight (i.e. better self-esteem, better physical health, etc.). Let him know you need his support. Listen to what he has to say, as well. See if the two of you can't come to a compromise concerning the tempting goodies he obviously enjoys (but then don't we all). Ask him to participate with your workout or invite him to start a walking routine with you. This will give you quiet time to spend together.

Hope this helps some...

Have a great day!

Kara

Thank you for your understanding response. It is discouraging. I get mad @ my dear hubby but also it is my fault for being so weak.. I CRAVE some of that stuff sometimes... The worst feeling in the world is after I've eaten the junk food that is there. Somehow I need to train myself to not want it... but it would be so much easier if it were not there at all... I've done wt loss hypnosis tapes but it hasn't helped me much. I hope this site helps me keep focussed on the goal. Good luck with your goals as well.

I face the same problems. My boyfriend loves to bring home pizzas and soda all the time. Since I prepare all of the meals at home I decided ,that was my defense. So now every time he brings home pizza as a meal or he eats something bad at work I subtract meat and desserts from our meals at home. If he insist on eating meat and dessert I play the equals game. I match him for calories. So while he is eating a 400 calorie meal from Burger King (pretty much nothing), I am enjoying a healthy salad with lean protein and a ton of other veggies. This requires you (the healthy eater) to be strong but if you already decided to change your life then you probably already have the strength to do this. Over time it will change the way he views food and he will be better able to support your choices. Its also kind of fun!